A very important message and a very moving post written byTim Kavermann.
For most of my life,the idea of self-love has been absent to me.To truly look within and have compassion and care for myself has been an experience I have only read about.Looking back,it seems somewhat silly to me that I have at times given those who are undeserving my love – when it's me who really needed it.I guess I felt it selfish to take time out to discover myself,也许会适得其反……当然，giving my all to others would bring around the same in return.Time and time again it has proven to not be the case.
照镜子，爱每一个不完美和缺陷，都是有力量的。即使在最糟糕的日子里，you are who you are,and that you are enough,是温暖的心。毫无疑问地知道你的不完整才是使你完整的原因，and not judge that,will free you for the rest of your life.
I have found self-love to be a pursuit complete with ups,downs,and days of complete hopelessness.It has taken hard work.我克服了一些最严重的负面影响，对自己根深蒂固的看法。I have silenced the inner critic and put to bed more than a decade of emotional unkindness that had,without permission,set up home in my thoughts.我发现自爱不是追求完美，也不能实现每一个目标，or even being overly successful.Self-love comes when you sit in silence and listen to the deepest,most honest part of you,the voice that is often drowned out by the madness of life,the voice which you finally and decisively ask: what do I need to make the remaining days of my life,我生命中最美好的日子？？
生活真的是一个庆典。I have recently met a couple of individuals who have literally faced death head-on;they have stood shoulder to shoulder with the end and survived.These unique souls,like many others I have met in the same circumstances,有一种无与伦比的热情，让他们的生活充满善良。It is inspiring and brings me to the realisation that I have wasted over a third of my time on this earth,criticising myself,burning myself out,chasing love that was never meant to be mine and pushing away those who could have been my world.I have spent untold years analysing the past and everything I did wrong,then subsequently living with the pain of that regret.
Loving myself has become a process and I am embracing every second of it.I have learned to smile amongst the chaos and tip-toe gently during times of struggle.I now go easy on myself when I fail and celebrate when I win.I put no reliance on happiness from others;I look to myself for support,light,and love.I surround myself with people who share my values and spend every day working towards only one goal: happiness.Not complete happiness,it doesn't exist,but contentment with where I am and what I have,in every moment.
Forget the things you cannot change.Drown in the things that make you smile.Find a passion and turn it into a career.Discover the joy hidden in the unlikeliest of places.第一次尝试，or revisit something that brought you pleasure in the past.This list could go on.为你做点什么的机会，selfishly for you,are endless.Please ask yourself that question: what do I need to make the remaining days of my life,我生命中最美好的日子？？
My inner dialogue,once so dark,现在充满了光明和兴奋。Finally,I see that I am doing fine,I am where I need to be and I cannot wait to see where I go next.
It might be the hardest thing you ever do,但我向你保证，当你爱上你自己的时候，你击败了内在的敌人，而外在的敌人似乎消失了。